You always know something is about to go down when you or a friend start a story off with the phrase “funny story”. It’s either going to have you laughing until you catch a cramp/have an asthma attack OR leave you thinking about how messed up the situation turned out. Either way, you know you are about to enjoy the story. So here goes…..
Funny story, I promise I can’t make it up. So today I was asked two questions: What are the benefits of being single? What am I doing while waiting (to get married)?
Now usually (with my three degrees and eight years of being an educator) I get a little ignorant when asked questions about my singleness. Why you may ask? Well, I look at every part of my life as being special, ESPECIALLY this state of singleness that I currently reside in. It doesn’t define me but at the moment it is who I am and how I am experiencing life. Like I said earlier I am in a committed relationship but until I have said my vows I am still considered single. No joint accounts, no sides of the bed, no his/her chairs (that sounds crazy because I would sit in his chair or lay in the middle of the bed just to tease him lol).
What are the benefits of being single?
- Sure my typical answer would be: I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, however, I want. Well, of course, that is the only benefit I need right? No okay, let’s be a grown-up and look at this a little deeper.
- The greatest benefit of being single is learning yourself. I think that is the one thing I wished they taught little girls in little girl school. Personally, I have had the greatest time figuring out who I am as a grown-up. I know what I like/don’t like, how I like to make my sandwiches, that I don’t like folding clothes (that mountain….Lord), I love to travel, and I am a very effective disrupter/distractor. My quirky personality can light up a room and I get frustrated and hold in my stress.
I have learned all these things just from living and being with myself. I have been able to learn who I am which is more than I can say for most people. But that’s another blog entry and I try not to judge so….I’M GOING TO LEAVE THAT ALONE.
What am I doing while waiting?
I’m not waiting on anything baby. I am living life on purpose! What do I look like waiting for something that may never happen? I became aware of this reality after my grandparents passed away. I was so upset that they would never get to see me get married that I didn’t realize that they’d already witnessed me accomplishing so much with my life. They were able to come to 2 out of three graduations, collegiate track meets, speaking engagements, buying a house, broken engagements, and experiencing life. They saw all this and cheered me on. My grandparents watched me experience life without waiting, and that’s how I see myself now.
I am living my life on purpose. There is no sequence to life. There is no husband and wedding store that you go to after you have reached a certain point. While I am at this point in my life I want to be able to tell my future children that their mother was a beast at life and she lived it to the fullest. I don’t want my little girl to think that life doesn’t start until she gets married.
I guess what I am trying to say is this…..your life is what you make it, so why not live it? Life can be a funny story but it’s also a brief moment in time, how will you use it? Will you be stuck wishing you were at a different moment or will you enjoy the path that you are on?