What the Bible says about Self-Care

As women, we are hard-wired to take care of everyone. This often leaves us with little for ourselves. What if I could help you cut self-care guilt by showing you bible verses about self-care that make it less of a nice to do and more of a need to do!

Living life with a constant level of overwhelm isn’t the life that God called us to. God’s word says that he has better for us, plans that prosper us and not harm us, so there is no way he could honestly want us to live a life of emptied-out-ness.

Self-care is defined as anything that is done deliberately to focus our efforts on caring for our health mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Self-care is the basis for improving our mood and reducing anxiety. It’s not selfish; it’s about knowing how to take care of our needs so that we can ultimately take care of others. It is not meant to be something we force upon ourselves. Self-care is what we do after taking an assessment of what our needs are and then work to take care of that need.

 Mental self-care

  1. Do not conform to this world’s pattern, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will.~ Romans 12:2
  2. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. Matthew 6:34
  3. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Philippians 4:8
Things to do for mental self-care
  • Talk to a counselor/therapist.
  • Pay attention 
  • Find a good hobby

Physical Self-Care

  1. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” Mark 6:31
  2. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;  you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
  3. If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy that person; for God’s temple is sacred, and you together are that temple. 1 Corinthians 3:17
Things to improve physical self-care
  • Dance
  • Improve your diet 
  • Get your rest

Emotional Self-care

  1. A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22
  2. A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30
  3. Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city. Proverbs 16:32
Ways to improve your emotional self-care
  • Journaling
  • Write down things you are grateful for
  • Let it go!!

Know that self-care isn’t selfish, and it is needed to live a life worth living now and forever. Yes, in James 16:33, it does say that we will have trials and tribulations, but it also says that HE has overcome this world. What good would it to become part of God’s kingdom or better yet for Jesus to have died for us if we continue to live a life that isn’t fruitful and we are raggedy. 



7 Self-care steps to be happy and healthy during the pandemic

I am excited to present a guest blog entry from author Ralph Macey from https://www.savantcare.com/blog/:7 Self-care steps to be happy and healthy during the pandemic

“The first rule of kindness is to be kind to yourself.”
Self-care is important. Period.
If you don’t take care of yourself, then how will you take care of your loved ones?
If you’re not well and happy, then how can you make other people happy?
The COVID-19 outbreak has pushed us into unchartered territory where grief and loss predominate everywhere. Job losses, pay cuts, social isolation, and painful deaths have shaken our emotional well-being. This is a challenging time, and we all have to survive it somehow. And, the first step begins with taking care of yourself. Here are a few simple steps that can help you to stay happy and healthy during the pandemic.

1. Maintain personal hygiene:

This is the first step to self-care, especially during the pandemic. You have to do everything to avoid this viral infection. I think anyone will agree with me on this. It’s essential to maintain personal hygiene during the pandemic. Wear masks when you’re going out. Wash your hands properly. Use a hand sanitizer before touching anything from outside. Wear gloves if possible. Stay at home and maintain social isolation.

2. Do what makes you happy:

Your happiness belongs to yourself, and nobody else. So, stop searching for happiness from somebody else. Love yourself unconditionally so that you can keep other people happy. During this period of social isolation, do what makes you happy. If you love to watch web series, watch it on Netflix or Amazon Prime, or any other video streaming platforms. Listen to good podcasts to motivate yourself and calm your agitated nerves. If you love to read books or plant trees, then do that.
Just remember one famous quote by Buddha:
“Happiness doesn’t depend on what you have or who you are.
It solely relies on what you think.”
So, think about good things in life. Think about what makes you happy. Think about the purpose of your life. And, when I say purpose, I don’t mean that the purpose of your life is just to be someone’s mom, wife, daughter, son, husband, or father. Those are social relationships that you share and cherish. The purpose of your life is to do what makes you happy and then spread happiness, among others.

3. Explore various ways to destress yourself:

There are a couple of steps you can take to destress yourself. The first step is to exercise for at least 20 minutes every day. Regular exercise helps to release harmful toxins and get rid of negative energy. Go to the terrace and work out for 20 minutes. Feel the nature and refresh your mind. When your body is too exhausted, your mind doesn’t get any time to nurture negative thoughts.
The second step is doing meditation for at least 30 minutes every day. You have to take 50 minutes out of your busy schedule for your physical and emotional well-being. Do prayers for half an hour to seek spiritual solace. Tell what is bugging your mind to the Lord so that he can solve all your problems. Remember this quote from the Bible before starting your meditation and prayer:
Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart
Psalm 37.4
Positive thinking helps you to stay relaxed and calm. It helps to reduce anxiety and stress. Doing gratitude prayers helps you to stay positive. Express your gratitude to God for everything you have – food, home, clothes, medicines, family, and so on.

4. Have adequate sleep every day:

Sleep is good food for both your mind and body. Working remotely and at the same time taking care of your family 24*7 is a tough task. But, your mind and body are doing this task sincerely every day. So, like everyone, they need rest too. Make sure you sleep at least for 8 hours every day. Don’t watch movies or web series until midnight. That is not good for your sensitive nerves. Wake up in the morning and have coffee in your balcony or garden. Your body would love to feel the soft breezes, and that will refresh your mind.

5. Connect with your friends and family:

Seeing the same faces and the same walls make life boring. So, why don’t you have video chats with your friends and relatives? Fix a time every day when you all can do video chats. Ask them how are they and what are they doing to stay positive and motivated during this difficult time? Share your thoughts and feelings with them. Talk about the beautiful days that you have spent with each other. Share funny and interesting stories to be happy and stay positive. It’s a good way to reconnect with your siblings and friends. Don’t miss it out.

6. Have a healthy diet to stay healthy:

Remember this quote from the Bible?

“It is not good to eat too much honey, nor is it honorable to search out matters that are too deep.” – Proverbs 25:27
It’s not only medical science but also our Holy Bible instructing us to have moderate amounts of honey (sugar) in our food. When we are at home, we tend to eat more. Too much eating without regular exercise is bad for our health.
Plan healthy and simple meals for yourself. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables during this time. Cut down on sugar, salt, and oil to have a healthy body during the pandemic. Boost your immunity system to keep viral infection at bay.

7. Accept the situation as it is:

Social isolation and job loss have made a huge impact on us – both physically and psychologically. Many people are working like robots with brave faces. This is not required. Being on a self-denial mode won’t be fruitful in the long run.
Accept the situation as it is. Learn to be comfortable in this uncomfortable situation. At the end of the day, suffer what is there to suffer, and enjoy what is there to enjoy. No one can avoid troubles, grief, and loss. Both grief and loss are a significant part of our life and we have to deal with them. If you have lost somebody, it’s okay to grieve and mourn. It’s okay to cry and vent out your pent up emotions. Your body and mind need it. Express your sadness so that your heavy heart gets relief.

Final words before I finish this post
Life is not over yet. As long as you’re alive, there is hope. So, instead of dwelling on negative thoughts, start hoping for a brighter future for everyone. It’s the hope that keeps our spirit alive. It’s the hope that drives us to fulfill our dreams and achieve our goals. Stay positive, be healthy, take care of yourself, and hope for a world where everyone can live with dignity.

Make sure to check out more ways for self-care by listening to the lastest Confessions From a Red Couch podcast episode.

Purpose…Lemme Get Some of That

I have a confession, I am missing my purpose. Yep, I have no clue what it is and have been searching for it for the past 2 years. I think after I got married I have been wrestling with the importance of my existence in this world beyond being a wife. Don’t get me wrong I love my husband but as I have talked about in previous blog entries, I don’t feel like “wife” is the only purpose I have to fulfill in this lifetime.

Now all I feel is wanting, a desire to do something greater. I just don’t know what that greater is. In my last couple of podcast episodes, I was joined by two wonderful life coaches, Dr. Sadi and Tanya J. Miller, both made me think about what I could be doing differently. These are the steps that I am going to take to get back to finding my purpose.

Pray and seek God:

To be honest I am perfectly okay with what is happening right now with the world. Now we all have a chance to see how much wasted time we have during a normal day. I plan to spend my extra time in devotional. I think the best way to find purpose is to immerse yourself in God’s word and conversation with Him. Proverbs 3:5-6 is what I plan to meditate on day and night. I have let the cares of this world direct my path rather than seeking the plans God has for me.

Take my advice:

If you don’t know, last summer I wrote an ebook called The Journey Back to Loving Yourself, published it and then hid it under a rock. Why? I felt like a fraud. I wrote the book describing a process I thought I had mastered, not knowing I would keep returning to that lesson again and again as the circumstances of my life change. So I plan to read and follow the exercises that are in the book to help me see where I am and focus on where I want to be.

Journey to finding my purpose

Be comfortable with being uncomfortable:

This one is very hard for me. I HATE being uncomfortable. I will problem solve and strategize ways to move away from the discomfort and back into homeostasis. It’s human nature to stay with the status quo, this also causes you to be content with being mediocre, less than who you should be. I need to be okay with this discomfort because I feel like this is more of a push I need to move forward. I am tired of waking up every day dreading the humdrum pace of life. It’s time to let this discomfort push me into my purpose.


And She Creates A Show


Promoting and motivating on my own behalf hard. If you have some of my past blog posts I have a very hard time promoting myself. I am used to being to motivation to others, I am EVERYBODY’S cheerleader.

The podcast has afforded me the opportunity to be a motivation and push for myself more than usual. I have also partnered with people who have also been my cheerleader. Thank you to my podcast fam and all of my faithful supporters/ listeners. I love you guys for all that you do. 


Dealing With Grief

Dealing with Grief

This episode was an eye-opener for me as my wonderful guest and I discussed dealing with grief. My lovely guest Cynthia Wright who I a podcaster, writer. She is the creator of her podcast called Getting Your Sh*t Together Podcast, where she talks about life recovery, trauma, and how addressing patterns was the key to her life in sobriety. You can find her on all streaming podcast services and on Instagram at @gettingyourishtogether. New episodes drop every Thursday at 8amET! Check it out.

Dealing With Grief Show Information

On this episode of Confessions From a Red Couch Podcast, we discussed the grieving experienced we both endured due to the loss of close loved ones. We talked about how no one can dictate how long or how you deal with grief and how it manifests.  We also discussed the positive and negative ways that we coped during the process.

The next show is all about setting healthy boundaries. Y’all already know that I a big on creating positive boundaries so people won’t take advantage of you and your well being.


S2 Ep 14: Nah….We Don’t Do Valentine’s Day

Check out the new episode!!! Chris and I talk about why we don’t wait for Valentine’s Day to celebrate our love.


We don't do Valentine's Day

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Bonus Episode: My Uterus Hates Me

Not much to say about this bonus confession time I’m giving you. Just know my uterus has hated me for a very long time, and now that I want to have a baby, this b***h is acting all the way up. Yes, I cried. Yes, I am in a really dark place. No, I don’t want to smile and think positively. I need to feel this moment for what it is and then I can move forward.

Confession Time

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Yo…..I Messed Up

In this episode, I was supposed to have a guest but yeah I messed up. Listen to see how NOT being true to myself and working in my strengths caused me to fail at meeting the goal of having my first guest for 2020. Make sure you check out last week’s episode about staying consistent. Being consistent helped me to keep pushing past my mistakes and record this episode. 

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Win, Lose, Or Draw….Stay Consistent

This episode I talk about not giving people privileges they don’t deserve, the runaway royals and tips why and how you need to stay consistent with your goals. Don’t forget to get the Goal Setting Playbook to help you crush your goals and dreams.
Goal Setting to stay Consistent
Check out the last week’s episode to find out why you need to write your goals down.
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Write the Vision: The Good, The Bad…..Hell Just Write It

This episode I talk about how to write your vision so you can crush them in 2020. Make sure you check out the Goal Setting Playbook to help set your goals and take the first step in making your dreams a reality. 
Goal setting playbook to help you write the vision
Check out episode 22 and to learn about why you set goals instead of new year resolutions.
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